Some people have the emotional capacity of a teaspoon. Not me. I have the emotional capacity of a 50 metre swimming pool with no shallow end. That might sound all romantic and mysterious but have you ever tried to maintain a 50 metre swimming pool with no shallow end? You can get all sorts of things hiding in there and all sorts of gunk growing on the surfaces. One of the huge things I’m realising is how long it can take me to get in touch with what I’m actually feeling.

One time a friend did something that really hurt me. It took me three months to realise that I was angry with her. Three months. By the time I became aware of it enough to have a conversation about it she had forgotten about it and moved on (but not before scolding me for not approaching her sooner). It wasn’t that I was holding onto resentment and secretly wanting to wring her neck everyday, I simply didn’t realise how angry and hurt I felt. It was hiding in the depths and I hadn’t looked. I wish I could say that three months is the longest it’s taken me! Continue reading →

Mornings often feel like a seed birthing a shoot, desperately pushing for what it hopes is the surface where it can emerge into the light in relief and breathe. This morning I turned to Mister Rogers for some much needed light, playing a playlist of his songs on youtube. In the middle of one of the playlists was Daniel Striped Tiger hanging up a sign that read “143” on the set. 143 being a letter code for “I love you”, with a number matching the number of letters in each word.

I remember my very first email address which began with volare143: volare after the song, meaning “to fly”, and 143 after the code which I think I read about in one of The Babysitters’ Club books!

This morning was slow but Mister Rogers helped me out of bed. I sat down to write out one of the Psalms in cursive writing à la Ray Hughes. I started with Psalm 150 a few days ago and have been working my way forward*, writing each psalm out in its entirety before singing it out loud to myself, to Him, to the house. I’d missed a couple of days so I sat down to write the next Psalm. I started to re-read my script, “I am losing all hope; I am paralysed with fear… Let me hear of Your unfailing love each morning for I am trusting You.” Your unfailing love… guess which psalm it is? 143.

Smiling to myself I got up to add some milk to my coffee just in time to see the washing machine timer blink from 1:44 to 1:43!

On a day where I feel like I don’t feel like I measure up, it is giving me great reassurance that I don’t have to. I am loved right now 🙂

*Unlike most calendars which record time as running from left to right and top to bottom, time in my mind has always flowed from right to left and bottom to top so doing certain things in reverse makes more sense to me.

Dear people of Ireland, today we’ll vote on whether to remove the 8^th amendment from our constitution. I’m not writing to you to tell to what to vote, I don’t have the right to do that. I’m writing to you to apologise on behalf of the church in Ireland.

The debate surrounding this referendum has been heated and hate-filled. At first I simply chose to switch off. I unfollowed everyone on Facebook. Everyone. (Yes, including you) Yes campaigners and No campaigners alike. It’s felt like everyone is shouting and no one’s listening. And the less heard people have felt heard, the louder they’ve shouted in trying to be heard.

This week I had a couple of friends come to visit and one of them stopped to talk to a Yes campaigner, simply to ask her what the referendum was all about and why she was campaigning for a Yes vote. What she shared wasn’t hate but pain. Pain at her voice not being heard, particularly pain caused by the church. After listening and asking her questions to hear her story, my friend told her that he works for a church and apologised on behalf of the church for causing so much pain. I don’t know if his words had an impact on her (though it certainly wasn’t what she was expecting to hear) but they certainly had an impact on me.

I am just one small voice among many clamouring for attention but for what it’s worth:

People of Ireland, we- the church- have failed you. God told us (not the Government) to take care of the most vulnerable people in society, especially women and children who are at risk of being marginalised. Instead of caring for you, mothers, when you found yourselves in crisis situations we punished you and took your children from you, selling them to the highest bidder. Instead of teaching you, children, we abused you and shamed you. Instead of loving you, orphans, we neglected and killed you. When you told the truth, we didn’t come clean. We are without excuse.

Jesus’ harshest criticism is for those who publicly side with God yet completely misunderstand His heart and misrepresent Him to others. In the parable of the Prodigal Son, Jesus tells how the loving father runs towards his lost son. The crowd is also running towards the son, to condemn him and cut him off from their community forever. The father outruns them so that his son is met by love and not judgment. People of Ireland, when you turned to us we should have represented the father, our heavenly Father, and met you with love, welcoming you as family. Instead, too often we have been the crowd, meeting you with condemnation and no mercy.

Jesus laid down all of His power, His authority, and His own life in order to pay the penalty for our sin so that we, you and I, could be forgiven and adopted into God’s family. He does not turn anyone away. Instead of laying our lives down for you, we have used our power to abuse you.

The prophet Isaiah describes Jesus:

“He will not shout or cry out, or raise His voice in the streets.”
We have denied you your voice and shouted you down instead of listening to you and valuing what you have to say.

“A bruised reed He will not break, and a smouldering wick He will not snuff out.”
When you were bruised and vulnerable and weak we should have held you gently and comforted you. Instead we crushed you.

“In faithfulness he will bring forth justice; He will not falter or be discouraged til He established justice on earth. In His teachings the islands will put their hope.”
Jesus ensured that those who were suffering injustice were heard and vindicated. He sided with the vulnerable and protected them from those who were trying to crush them. Instead of protecting you from those within our ranks who sought to destroy you, we said nothing. We did nothing. We allowed injustice to win. We should have pointed you towards hope. Instead we shut the door.

We have failed you. We do not deserve your forgiveness.

I realise that this is too little, too late but I want to say it anyway: on behalf of the church, I am sorry.

If you have been hurt by the church then I realise that I am the last person you’d like to speak to right now. But if you feel like your voice has not been heard and you would like to share your story with someone who will not interrupt you, shut you down, or de-humanise you, I’d be honoured to hear it. I’ll have the tea ready, just in case.

Last Thursday, I accidentally started conversations with two strangers.

In the afternoon instead of tapping and swiping on my screen, I pulled out needles and yarn and started to knit. I used to do this in order to hijack some attention. Today was purely practical. Continue reading →

It’s nothing personal, I’m just done- it’s over.

I know everyone is going to to think I’m crazy breaking up with you- you’re as close to perfect as they get. You are idolised the world over from hipster haunts to fast food basics to the jar of instant in Mum’s cupboard. People cling to you in the mornings as if their lives depended on you (and they would swear they do). Endless memes have been created to praise your name. You even have your own international day of recognition this Sunday. Your fans have raised the standard of living for farmers and suppliers across the world. They’ve also raised the standards of taste and consistency- even I can tell the difference between franchise and something special and smile a sigh of appreciation! Continue reading →

It just sort of happened.

It all started when I gave up on the app where you had to scan the barcode on the coffee jar to turn off the alarm. Continue reading →

I’m on a reading spree at the moment: devotions, leadership, history, personal development, science, fiction, the Good Book- it feels good to be back. College did well to kill the love of reading that childhood did well to nurture. Continue reading →

via Daily Prompt: Conquer

When the extension lead burnt out this morning so did something inside me.

Within five minutes I knew that the world could be made right again as long as I made sure that the water boiler for the tea wasn’t plugged into the same socket as the sound system next time, as long as I told each person how to hold the microphone correctly so that it wouldn’t make funny noises again, as long as I made sure that the contrast between the font and the background on the PowerPoint was high enough to read on the little projector screen, as long as each person knew exactly what to do and when, and we finished when we said we would, and nobody interrupted at any point to share some love or encouragement for the long, weary hours between now and next week.

“When everything lives up to my expectations all will be right with the world again”, I reasoned. (or at least right with my little part of the world) Continue reading →

It’s the one thing I miss when I’m away from Ireland. As much as I love the sunshiny heat that soaks into your bones overseas, when I come home I can’t wait for the rain. Continue reading →